Dates and Time
This is a long-term group that meets at 1 pm ET on the 2nd and 4th Friday of the month for 2 hours, starting May 8, 2020.
What is an Authentic Communication Group?
The group is an opportunity to practice Nonviolent Communication.The focus is on our internalized -isms (racism, sexism, ableism, classism, etc) and how it shows up in our speech, actions, thoughts and interactions. In this learning laboratory, you can experiment with how you interact with others and get feedback on your impact. On a shared journey of deepening awareness, you get to work directly on interpersonal issues as they arise in the moment.
Keeping it real, you describe how you feel toward each other. Rather than talking about “there and then” we build awareness of group dynamics and share vulnerably about issues of power, identity and culture.
Who is this Group for?
This group is for NonViolent Communication certification candidates who are longing for beloved community, authentic expression and deep learning. Those who join this group have developed NVC consciousness and have experience naming clear observations free of judgment, feelings free of evaluation, needs free of strategy and requests free of demand.
- The group is limited to 8 participants meets on Zoom twice a month for 2 hours
- Each meeting is recorded, so you can listen to the session later
- You can schedule a private call with one of your facilitators once a quarter to discuss your learning or any challenges you’re facing
In the group you might practice:
- Deepening self connection
- Naming what you see about power dynamics
- Unlearning isms
- Experimenting with new behaviors
- Raising difficult issues with care
- Exploring how gender, race, class, sexual orientation and ability impact the group
- Expressing yourself with greater authenticity
- Empathizing with others
- Giving and receiving honest feedback
- Connecting across differences
- Communicating mindfully, even when you are emotionally triggered
As you learn from what is happening in the group, you’ll begin to experiment with new behaviors. That means taking risks. When you name the impact of someone’s behavior on you, you give the group a gift. Despite initial concerns about the feedback you might receive, you can expect to emerge with more choices and a wider range of self-expression. Group members tend to build a high-trust, open-hearted, supportive environment.
As the group develops ease with being present in the moment, you enter a state of flow and aliveness. In this space you can build better relationships by:
- Reaching out to others empathically and building trust
- Expressing your vulnerability
- Finding the courage to bring up and work through difficult issues
- Communicating your anger or hurt with compassion
- Allowing yourself to receive support and care from others
Our intention is to create a diverse group. Because NVC has primarily attracted white folks, and because people of color sometimes experience tokenism in these settings, we are intentionally forming a group that includes many people of color. We also want the group to include different genders, class, age, physical ability, and sexual orientation.
Bring a colleague: To support diversity, we ask you to bring a person from an ethnicity different from yours. If you have the means, consider offering to pay for someone with less access to resources.
No matter how much detail we provide, it can be difficult to understand this form of learning until you actually experience it. That’s why we offer a free pre-group interview with a facilitator to see if the group is a good fit for you. If you decide to join, you can come for a month and then determine if you want to continue. After that, we ask you to commit to staying with the group for 4 months.
For more information or a free pre-group interview, email us.
Mika Maniwa is a certified CNVC trainer based in Vancouver, British Columbia of Japanese descent. As a master of violent communication with a deep affection for “jackals”, she is constantly learning how to “be NVC” without the jargon. She enjoys working with multicultural groups in both working-class and middle-class contexts and is interested in what is needed to create safety and trust between people across power differences. She dreams of the moments when a sense of synergy and collective wisdom might emerge in a group, especially after working through conflict.
Martha Lasley is a founding partner of Leadership that Works, where she supports leaders and social change activists to develop compelling visions, improve their communication, bring spirit into team building, and develop a coaching culture. She has authored three books: Coaching for Transformation; Facilitating with Heart; and Courageous Visions.
Martha is a certified trainer for the Center for Nonviolent Communication and has led many International Intensive Trainings with Marshall Rosenberg. She coaches visionary leaders and social change activists to develop a culture of collaboration and support.
For more information about the Authentic Communication Group, read Getting Started and Group Agreements.
If you are interested in joining an Authentic Communication Group, but the date and time do not work for you, send us an email and say which days and times would work for you. We'll consider your preferences when we form the next group.
When you join the authentic communication group, we ask you to invest $100 a month. This group also serves as a fundraiser for People of Color for NVC retreats. 100% of your payments support the POC4NVC retreats, a place to explore what it means to decolonize NVC and evolve the thought leadership around examining the work through a systemic lens. Another focus of these gatherings is to share healing practices for folks in racialized bodies, and to simply connect with each other for support.
If paying $100 a month is not possible for you, you can ask for a scholarship by emailing us with your request.
If you have the means and would like to support others to participate, we welcome your donation.
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